Trust in others

We live in a world immersed with rules, laws, and regulations designed to protect its inhabitants. But whom do we protect these inhabitants from? More importantly than whom (potentially inflicts harm upon us) is the justification to which they place behind their actions.

Throughout our lives, we can trust change to be constant. We will continuously develop new and vastly diverse relationships moving forward. How we use the people we choose to surround ourselves with and how they choose to use us lays the foundation and basis of the given relationship. Trust is derived from a level of risk we give to others. As a rule of thumb, we tend to minimize our risks in fear that others will be unable to recognize, comprehend, or appreciate our given perspective. Which is fair isn’t it? We each have exclusive and original stories embodying many unique experiences that have instilled the values and ethics to which we have learned to act upon.

The relationships we forge carry different levels of truth among what we willing choose to share.  In regards to truth, as communication is concerned, truth is relative. We as people are fallible and are not perfect. Oftentimes, what is perceived as truth is only an extent of truth’s entirety. We can account and anticipate people to produce behavior that correlates with one’s self-interested goals and ambitions. However, just because we act and behave in accordance with our own self-interest does not mean this behavior is malicious, negative, or potentially hurtful towards others.

As we continue to age, we find ourselves having the opportunity to ripen with maturity, poise, and grace learned from past misfortunes and missed opportunities. Slowly, but ever so consistently, we become deeper and more complex as individuals. Our thoughts broaden, our perspective enhances, and our objective becomes clearer.

As we develop relationships with the people living in our world, a certain level of truth is exposed. The exposure of truth depends on how much we trust a particular person with ourselves. Are we ever 100 percent us in action or conversation as if we were one entity to many miles? Or perhaps, do we ever put forth that same level of truth we speak with when in conversation with our respected, all-knowing, and all-powerful gods? The relationships we have with our peers; co-workers, students, team-members, etc. will not encompass the same deeper level of truth as the relationships we share with family members, spouses and partners, close friends, and so-on. We trust those we view more similarly to us; we surround ourselves with artists who perform in the same genre.

Perhaps the most honest relationships we have (however one-sided they may be) are with our pets. These animals that fill the void provided by indentured servants to provide happiness are the most-trustworthy of adversaries. Pets act as our free psychologists; our paid-friends listening to whatever sermon we preach to them.

However true, or honest, what is said may be; it is never as true, as honest, or as passionate as what is left unsaid. Others’ motives and reasons for their actions aren’t always revealed to us.  Abraham Lincoln said, “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.” Lincoln refers to the subject as a fool according to others’ thoughts, not that the subject is actually a fool. The artistry of thoughts and actions we create will never be understood from the perspective of the on-looker, as it is so wholeheartedly recognized by oneself. We choose what performances or beliefs we deem the world deserving to see.

Dwelling in the sea of one’s subconscious desires and wants is an attempt at heavy bravado that will not remain afloat. Regardless, we can understand that one is to act in accordance with their desires, whether they are perceived as good or evil. These labeled actions are defined on the basis of the perspective of societal norms. With each of us learning behavior through our own experiences, what is normal? What is to be said for the people who aren’t raised innormal situations? And does the interest of one’s survival outweigh the interests of one’s attempt to gain happiness?

We either put ourselves in situations of interest and desire now, or we put ourselves in situations that correspond to the enhancing of our survival. Most people want to be trustworthy, but there are people who couldn’t care less if it’s not in their perceived best interest to be so. For some people, if there isn’t a high-risk for not being trustworthy, there may be outweighing benefits than your offer of trust. We all are guilty of acting in accordance with our priorities; otherwise we wouldn’t put our desires into action. We would let opportunities pass us by, we wouldn’t emphasis the commitments we make of our time, and we wouldn’t have learned anything at all. Successes learn to take advantage of the opportunities they are presented. When one has a definitive sense of what it is they are after, their path becomes clear and unambiguous.

Given a choice, you should trust that people are honest with you. Following a similar system installed to administer justice in this country, people are innocent until they prove themselves to be guilty. Trust is the behavior people exude (specific to the expected and anticipated action) when no one is around them. One way we can preview how people honor us (when they are not in our presence), is to monitor the words they make about others; to us, in the trust they bestow upon us. Whatever research or evidence you may draw, be wary of the impulsive desire to create subjective conclusions (pertaining to others) that match the desire to see people as we wish to see them. Some people may have the best intentions for us, but through our perceived notions of their untrustworthiness, we don’t grant the opportunity that allows one to prove or disprove their worth to us.

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Fail, fail, and fail some more

Failure is what we ought to be striving for everyday. When we fail, we attempted what we were not afraid to do. We succeed when we learn to overcome our imaginary sense of fear; our preconceived notions of failure. When we do what we fear most, we conquer our fear.

When faced with that insurmountable challenge, realize that no success has been made without failure previously. Learn the ropes. Seize the opportunity to play a practice round in preparation for that tournament round tomorrow. This is the time to loose the timidity and test the waters. Learn sooner then later what works and what does not.

When you fail, smile. Smile knowing the next time you are faced with this similar predicament, you have educated yourself with more knowledge – pertaining to what it takes to become a success.

Each day is made up of hundreds of moments and opportunities to overcome ourselves. When we can learn to step outside of our comforts and pleasantries, we instill the disciplines and fortitude needed to become what we wish and strive to become.

Never settle for who you are today. The person you can become tomorrow is better; more knowledgable, more persistent, more alive. Do not let the opinions of others prevent you from failing. This is your life; your game; your moment. Live your life for you. Your life is your responsibility, take action.

Laugh at those who judge your failures. Grin at those who smirk at your ambitions. Smile at those who are content with yesterday’s successes. Before you know it, achievement will be the routine to which you call your hobby.

Choose to fail. Choose to surround yourself with the people who are going where you want to go; these are the pieces granted and given to you to become a success.

Do not let the people you choose to put in your world pull and gravitate you down to their level of complacency. Learn from your peers what you have not yet taught yourself. Listen to perspectives in hopes of loosing your subjectivity; replace what was with objectivity.

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Hasty continuance

Time in the purest sense is one of the few playing fields in life that is without advantage. We all are subject to eighty-six thousand four hundred seconds per given day. How we spend our time isn’t nearly as curious as to how much time we spend.

We all have the opportunity to live, but how many of us actually live each day to its maximum potential? We sleep endlessly, walk aimlessly, and are waiting for something new and exciting to happen in our lives.

We hear our peers shout and profess carpe diem and live life to the fullest, but few of us possess the fortitude to accept these helpful hints of hardship. Life may not be easy when lived properly, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be enjoyable.

Every day we rise at some point to begin our quest to somehow make it back to the bed to which we just crawled out of. We are passionate about sleep; we are passionate about our droll dreams that serve as fulfillments for our own insecurities; we passionately carry out the belief and action of contentment.

We sing and dance to our favorite songs, rebelliously wishing to be celebrated as an individual. We celebrate our nonconformity to society; we celebrate our vast uniqueness.

We live for the present in fear of tomorrow. But we ought not help shorten the process of life with a blatantly reckless mindset. But rather, let us be unique by outliving our peers; not in a sense of duration, but rather in a sense of passion. Let us show the world how unique we are by giving ourselves the best opportunity to succeed not today, but tomorrow.

Live. Venture outside of your comfort zone. Grow.

Dare to see the darkness turn into light, and let this sign of a new day be all that you need to feel a motive and a reason to live. Realize with this sign, that you are lucky for yet another day. Is this not enough?

Celebrate yourself. You are the unique individual that you are for a reason and on purpose. An individual without counterfeit imitation.

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You Think, I Think

Perspective is everything. It isn’t a question of better or worse, but moreover a question of choice. When we value our ability to choose; we the value the consequences of our choices. And in effort to accomplish what we believe we must; we are obliged to sacrifice.

Ironically, the sacrifices we make will never be understood from the perspective of the on-looker, as it is so wholeheartedly recognized by oneself.

We are constantly surrounding ourselves with ideas. Every interaction we partake in (not restricted or limited to other people) helps create a bit more of who we will ultimately become. Our growth is constant; with an endless capacity for knowledge and understanding.

We as individuals share a unique adventure that no one else can coherently relate to. We may share many similar experiences, but our journey is restricted to us; we create the vision, we create the story, and we create the legacy for our own lives.

Everyday we become more; more of ourselves – more cultured to what we expose ourselves to. Every second, of every minute, our perspective is changing and evolving. We mustn’t settle ourselves for yesterday’s ambition. We know more at this hour than we did at this time yesterday. Whether we realize it or not, every choice we make affects how we perceive reality.

When we take the time to think; to reflect on what we have done, we in-turn become more aware of ourselves and who we really are as individuals. We see the consequences of our choices – in light as well as in darkness. We are fallible creatures; we are not error-free. This is the beauty of life; we learn through our experiences. And if we learn to view objectively, we learn abundantly.

At this moment, we are exactly where we wish to be. Where we are now is a choice we made through the talents and knowledge we bestow. We can only use the resources that we have obtained; we cannot use what we do not have.

By this token, every individual is doing the best to which they are aware of. We are creatures of habit. What we have experienced over the years, regardless of the various endeavors we have endured, we learn from. We learn to enjoy who we are and we become what we once wished to be.

The choices made by others that we do not understand are a result of our own ignorances. When we dare to subject ourselves to a completely reverse perspective, we begin to understand how similar we all really are; none of us better than the next. As we begin to appreciate each other for our differences as opposed to our similarities, we as a species of society grow closer to an ideal that separates us from all other animals: the ability to live and become more than an individual.

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